Love & Marriage

As many of you know, Shaker GoldFishy is one of the longest-term Shakers and we have now been friends for almost ten years. We've spent both our 40th birthdays together, celebrated personal and professional successes with one another, commiserated when things have been hard. He is a good friend, whose magical ability to send me an encouraging note on days when I most need it is more important to the sustenance of this community than y'all know.

The past few days, Iain and I have been in Minnesota, where we were attending Shaker GoldFishy's beautiful wedding to his now-husband (!!!) The Captain. (Which I am sharing with their permission.) It was a beautiful outdoor ceremony, and days of celebration, they both looked so handsome and happy and full of love for each other.

And their marriage will be recognized by their state. After a protracted, harrowing, often disappointing, and ultimately joyous fight in Minnesota, about which Shaker GoldFishy has written for this space, same-sex marriage was finally made legal in Minnesota last year.

So many times, GoldFishy and I have talked about how, ten years ago, we weren't sure we'd ever see marriage equality in our lifetimes. It is a fight we've talked about often, because it is political and because it is so very personal. And that fight is still not over, for much of the country.

But the dominoes are falling. And my friends GoldFishy and The Captain are married. Blub.



A toast, to one of my favorite couples on the planet.

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