Last week, Jessica Luther published a Storify about the ubiquitous habit of privileged people demanding that marginalized people provide objective "evidence" of their claims of oppression, alienation, and/or harm, and I followed that up with this piece.
This morning, we were talking about the subject some more, and I noted that demands for "evidence" is not merely silencing, but a way of justifying one's own indifference. Jess said, "Tweet that!" and so I did, and here are the tweets for those who aren't on Twitter and/or missed them.
The next time I am met with a demand for "evidence" when I report incidents of harm as a result of oppression, this is going to be my script: "I am giving you evidence in the form of my lived experience. In so doing, I am asking you to care. About me and about the other people to whom these things are also done. If you care, you will listen. If you don't, I am politely requesting you be honest enough to simply say that you do not care, instead of obliging me to engage with you in a mendacious argument designed to publicly justify why you won't."
I am tired of wasting my time in "debates" that have no purpose but to task me with the responsibility for the luxury of indifference conferred by privilege. And I am calling that shit out, every time I see it, starting now.
Shakesville is run as a safe space. First-time commenters: Please read Shakesville's Commenting Policy and Feminism 101 Section before commenting. We also do lots of in-thread moderation, so we ask that everyone read the entirety of any thread before commenting, to ensure compliance with any in-thread moderation. Thank you.
blog comments powered by Disqus