Fatsronauts 101: Heinous Questions

[Content Note: Fat hatred.]

So, one of the things about existing as a fat person in a fat-hating culture is that you get lots of heinous questions. (At least, many of us do.)

Many of these questions, as you'd expect, are centered around our eating habits, our exercise regimen, our medical "numbers," and other attemps to ascertain why we're fat and/or whether we are unhealthy.

But then there are the questions that are just absurdly heinous, invasive, personal, and utterly dehumanizing—questions that remind us that we are regarded as a whole other species by a lot of our fellow humans.

Questions like:

* How do you find clothes that fit you?

* Can you reach your ass to wipe it?

* Are you able to get pregnant?

* How do you have sex?


(Well, maybe not.)
Sometimes, it's not strictly a question, but expressed amazement that we are able to do something, like walk a long distance or tie our shoes.

Now, not all fat people can do all of these things, especially when fat intersects with disability. But, in my experience, when I've been asked these sorts of questions, or have been commended on my ability to accomplish some task, the person asking/commenting has no reason to presume I can't do these things, except for the fact that they see a fat person standing in front of them.

And, of course, not everyone (of all sizes) can do all of these things, and, even among those of us who can, we don't universally do them the same way. But, again, that's not the context in which these questions get asked of me, and lots of other fat people. They get asked in a way that implies our capabilities must necessarily be limited and different and less than because we are fat.

They are asked in a way that essentially questions our humanity, our likeness to non-fat humans.

So, fellow fatsronauts: What is the most obnoxious, intrusive, contemptible, and/or ignorant question you've been asked, in relation to your being fat?

And if any thin commenters feel like sharing the most heinous question they ever asked a fat person before learning how heinous it actually was, please feel free to share that, too.